Both Joe and I had an appointment with the doctor, we both go in together and even though the Doctor listens to each of us separately, it’s like a real family visit. For example when the Doc had a question about my cough, he asked Joe to comment as well in terms of what he’s noticed. I like the feeling of being treated as a legitimate couple who live legitimate lives together – even though we’ve just celebrated our 50th anniversary we find our relationship is never seen as ‘real’ as our heterosexual counterparts. All this to say, it’s nice, but it’s also not what I’m wanting to write about.
When it came to me the doctor laid out two possible courses of treatment, the risks and benefits of both AND the research behind the approaches. You can tell he’s also a teacher, teaching at the local university, because he is able to lay out information in a manner that’s easy to follow.
The reason he went into the detail was because he said that he felt that I was in the best position to choose which course I’d like to try. In fact, even before he said that I had decided which one made sense to me and was going to advocate for it … but there was no advocacy necessary.
We talked about it a bit more, and we were done.
Our doctor has always made sure we were fully consenting to whatever treatment he was offering, he has always made sure we understood the approaches suggested and some of the research behind the recommendation. We’ve always felt in the driver’s seat.
But this time was different, more overt, I’d guess.
So, we paid the parking fee and drove away. It’s worth every cent.
We get our health care for free but the parking can be a killer!