Photo Description: Close up photo of a gentle faced doberman /German shepherd mix

 

Right now, as I’m writing this, Lucy is sitting beside me. It’s taking a long time to type these words. You see right now, Lucy has decided that her need for affection and affirmation is the only thing I should be attending to …

excuse me …

be right back …

OK Lucy is now full up on hugs and love.

I admire this about her. If she could get up and debate with behaviour therapists, she would want to make the case that love isn’t contingent … if it is it’s toxic.

I have always maintained this, I wrote ‘the 10 Commandments of Reinforcement’ a long while back wherein I stated that rewards could be contingent but that love should never be. Lucy here is a follower of that philosophy.

Lucy has no difficulty in seeking out affection when it’s needed. She has no problem in communicating exactly what it is she wants from us in that department. “Scratch behind my ears” is different from “stroke the underside of my throat.”

I wish I had the skill of asking for affection when I needed it.

I wish that I didn’t feel embarassed at how much I need it.

But there you have it, Lucy the pooch, believes she deserves it any time she wants it. Maybe that’s why she seems so much, so very much, more at peace with herself.

Damn dog.

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